I offer in-depth one-on-one coaching that helps you reclaim your lost power.
We’ll work with your genuine desires and deep intuition to strengthen your communication, elevate your relationships, and help you live your best life.
You’ll gain clarity on where you hold back, develop confidence in handling challenging situations, and feel a stronger sense of grounding. Your improved, embodied communication will be an inspiration to others.
“Edy’s workshop helped me learn more about my inner power and potential. He’s done a wonderful job guiding me to a more assertive, confident, and positive self. Thank you, Edy!”
Assertiveness: Who is a good fit for this coaching?
The common thread among my clients is their desire to stand tall and speak their truth. This journey begins with reconnecting to their deeper selves —understanding their needs, and learning to express those needs assertively yet compassionately, without slipping back into passivity or resorting to aggression.
Before we start working together, many clients find themselves in one of these situations:
1. You Feel Resentment: It’s Time to Release What You’re Holding In.
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You tend to be overly easygoing, often holding in what you truly feel. Over time, this leads to anger, bitterness, and resentment—especially when you say or do things you don’t truly want. Even simple requests can feel daunting to voice.
I can help you identify what’s blocking you from speaking up and let go of your resentments.
2. You Want to Express Your Deep Inner Truths.
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You often struggle to express your true thoughts and desires. You have difficulty saying “no,” even when it’s necessary. You frequently face obstacles when it comes to asserting yourself and prioritizing your needs when it matters most.
I can help you discover your unique and authentic voice.
3. You Want More Meaningful relationships.
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You face challenges in romantic, work, and friendship settings because you tend to keep your feelings and thoughts to yourself. You long for deeper, more honest, and loving connections, but find it difficult to fully express your true self.
I can help you show up more authentically in your relationships, fostering the closeness you seek.
Why assertiveness?
Your words—what you say and how you say it—are among the most important aspects of your life. They reveal your thoughts and feelings, letting others see who you truly are.
When you withhold your real thoughts and emotions, it creates turmoil inside, leaving you feeling unseen, disconnected, and lonely. Understanding yourself, recognizing your capacity to handle challenges, taking ownership of your wants and needs, and prioritizing what truly matters all pave the way for an authentic life in which you make your own choices.
Because life is largely interpersonal, assertiveness shows up everywhere—at work, at home, and with friends. At its core, it’s simply effective communication. When you can speak up for yourself clearly and respectfully, life becomes richer and more fulfilling.
I Guide People Experientially to Fully Express Themselves
My mission is to help you deeply understand and embrace your inner self, so you can confidently show up as your authentic self in love, work, and life.
You Might Struggle With…
Speaking Your Truth: Sharing what you really think and feel, saying “yes” when you mean it, and “no” when you don’t.
Self-Sacrifice: Putting others first to the point of resentment or regret.
Boundaries: Feeling unsure how to set limits or push back when you’re being dismissed or disrespected.
We’ve all sacrificed ourselves at some point, only to look back with pain or resentment. While it can be tough to realize how much we’ve given up, it also opens the door to real, positive change. I believe there are no mistakes—only experiences that teach us and push us to grow.
How I Can Help:
I assist you in breaking free from self-sacrifice, meaning what you say, and expressing yourself fully—so you can live on your own terms. Every one of us can learn to connect with our inner selves and communicate our desires in a clear, purposeful way.
Areas of Focus:
Clearly Articulating Your Needs
Learning to Say “No”
Mindfulness-Based Practices
Clear, Firm, Non-Violent Communication
Boundary Setting
Confidence & Assertiveness
Acting & Role-Playing (Experiential Exercises)
What Tangible Results Can You Expect?
At Work
Career Growth: Whether aiming for a promotion or negotiating a raise, assertiveness can help you advocate for yourself effectively.
Being Heard in Meetings: Overcome interruptions and make sure your ideas get the attention they deserve.
Interview & Presentation Skills: Present yourself confidently in professional settings.
In Relationships
Important Conversations: Stop staying in the gray areas and start speaking up with family, friends, and romantic partners.
Standing Up for Yourself: Respond clearly when someone is dismissive or disrespectful.
Expressing Desires in Dating: Overcome insecurities and share what you truly want.
Everywhere Else
Everyday Interactions: Speak up if you’re overcharged or if someone cuts in front of you in line.
Excusing Yourself: Confidently leave an event or conversation when you need to.
Small Wins, Big Impact: Return an item you didn’t order or clarify a misunderstanding—small acts that build confidence and assertiveness for bigger challenges.
Why Focus on Experiential Work?
I believe in hands-on methods like role-playing and mindfulness-based practices. These techniques help you feel the change as you have a direct experience, so you can apply new skills more naturally in everyday life. This isn’t about putting you more in your head, although, some theory is a necessity.
“I appreciate how Edy creates a safe space for us to speak up. In his class, I felt I was really being listened to. Also, sometimes people need to be pushed a little to truly express themselves, and Edy is very good at balancing that. He does a great job at leading people into their growth zone!”
My Methodology
Tailored to your unique needs
“I appreciated how comfortable Edy made me feel expressing myself and showing my vulnerability during the workshop and in our private sessions.
He has been my mentor, guiding me on the journey to becoming the person I truly want to be: an assertive, well-rounded individual. Together, we’ve worked to eliminate my limiting self-beliefs and explored how assertive I can truly be.”
The power of assertiveness
Work & Career
Asserting yourself in the workplace helps you manage your workload effectively, speak up when it counts, and negotiate the compensation you deserve.
Happiness
Becoming more comfortable with expressing yourself—gently but firmly—has a profound impact on your overall happiness.
Love & Relationships
Being assertive means honesty about your feelings and taking responsibility for your needs. As you learn to assert yourself, you foster healthier and more fulfilling romantic connections.
Mental Health
While speaking up can be challenging, it’s much easier than suppressing your feelings. Releasing resentments and sharing what matters to you has a positive impact on your mental well-being.
“Working with Edy in a group setting was a profoundly moving experience. His unique ability to balance structure and focus while staying open to the unexpected created a space where I felt truly seen and supported. It’s the kind of environment where I wanted to be and where I could safely explore and discover deeper parts of myself.”
About me & why I do this work
I used to struggle with anxiety—often feeling trapped “in my head,” with my true thoughts and emotions locked away. This kept me from genuinely connecting with people at work, in friendships, and in relationships. What I didn’t realize was that I was missing a deeper connection with myself, burying my real feelings, wishes, and desires.
I’d heard I could just “expose” myself to situations until the anxiety lessened, but I knew I needed more than that. At one point, I believed my anxiety was permanent. Then I discovered new methods—meditation, improv, acting, and assertiveness—that truly changed my life.
Since then, I’ve continued my personal growth journey, coaching individuals privately, and leading support groups—applying everything I’ve learned to my own life while helping others. Although I hold an MSc in Computer Science from the University of Toronto and have worked as a software engineer, data analyst, and lecturer, I once believed I was simply an introvert destined to sit behind a screen. It wasn’t until I discovered how to own my voice and step into more authentic ways of relating that I realized I wasn’t lacking extroversion—I was lacking the courage to share my true self. By getting out of my own way, I found deeper connection with others and a renewed sense of purpose, which is exactly what I love helping people do now.
“I have had the honour and privilege to work with Edy for several years. A natural leader, Edy is inspiring, passionate and a true believer in helping those to reflect on themselves and connect with others in the search for authenticity, meaning, purpose and soul.
Edy’s style is all about being open, forthright, deliberate, positive, structured and being present in the moment. While he may challenge you from time to time on your own viewpoints and perspective, he does so as a great supporter, valuing your experiences , insight and wisdom without any judgement whatsoever.”
private Coaching
I offer personalized 1:1 coaching and training to help you become more authentically yourself. Throughout our collaboration, I will guide you to discover your individual needs, address your weaknesses, and coach you experientially to unlock your potential and strength. You will experience yourself in a variety of new ways, which will enable you to make lasting changes in your life.
Let’s chat and see if this is a good fit (more info, below).
| Monthly Retainer |
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| Billed monthly until you cancel |
| Weekly or bi-weekly sessions |
| Sessions are 60 to 90 minutes and take place via video conference or phone. For individuals local to NYC, in-person sessions may be available in the future. |
| Includes tailored activities for you to complete between sessions |
| Email support provided as needed for additional accountability |
| Cancel anytime |
| Non-refundable |
“Through seemingly gentle nudges and innocent-sounding questions, Edy unleashes a whirlwind of wisdom, spinning you around to see a whole new perspective, and getting at the root of insecurity, fear, and self-doubt that lead to allowing people to treat you like a doormat.
What I love about Edy is his ability to show me how my mind is creating self-limiting beliefs that I don’t need to follow… and that pushing past fear isn’t as hard as it seems. I’m so much happier with my life circumstances than I’ve ever been, and a large part of the credit goes to Edy’s sage advice mixed with a bit of kick-assery.”
How long does it take?
Becoming more assertive is about becoming more yourself.
It’s an ongoing process of refining the skills of openness, honesty, and integrity. With dedicated practice outside of workshops or sessions, you can often see meaningful, positive change within about three months—enough to set you on a lasting path of growth. Some people make significant strides in the first month or two, while others may need more time, even years, of continued support. After all, assertiveness is a skill that deepens with practice. Yet from the very beginning, most clients encounter moments of clarity and experience pivotal shifts that propel them forward.
Is this coaching the right fit for me?
Book a free 30-minute call to explore whether assertiveness and communication coaching is a good fit. I look forward to hearing about where you are now and how we might work together.
List of Clients Who Have Participated in Our Workshop “Asserting Yourself: Living Your Truth”
Upcoming workshops
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Asserting Yourself: Living Your Truth
Jan 2024, Toronto, Ontario. More info soon.
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